Swipe fatigue, or the rise and fall of dating apps

Annie Lord

Dating apps have changed us and in reality there’s probably no going back. When people don’t use apps, it doesn’t mean they start meeting in person, it just means they don’t meet anyone at all. A friend of mine recently compared the situation to Uber and the way the ride sharing app monopolised the market by offering crazily low fares so that even though it barely works any more you have no option but to use it, standing and waiting while car after car cancels your trip. I can’t remember the last time someone approached me at a party, or when I did the same to someone else. We’re now so used to conducting our dating life via our phones, when we’re out we never think of meeting anyone.

The day after a big night out I’ll remember that there were actually hot guys there – I just didn’t talk to them. That’s something I save for when I’m on my phone waiting for food to warm up in the microwave. When you do manage to meet anyone IRL they’re just as lazy. The malaise of dating through apps has spilled out into everyday life so that we see everyone as disposable. That guy I mentioned earlier was someone I did actually meet at a party and still our conversation faded after a couple of days. Maybe I used an emoji he didn’t like, or he thought there were better options. All I know is neither me, nor many of my friends have made it beyond a second date in a long time….